Create a Life you want to Live

Have you ever found yourself saying someday I want to ____, or I’d like to do “that” someday?  Most people have a someday list, even if only in their head.

The problem for most of us is someday never comes…as “someday” is not a day of the week and someday keeps getting moved to the day after tomorrow. And so often such lists end up somewhere in landfill, day to day concerns take precedence and fill up our days.

The idea of a “Someday list” is simple enough. You list all the things you want to accomplish in your life, and cross them off as you do them. Someday lists are a motivator to live a life of fulfilled dreams with rich experiences and fewer regrets.

I remember hearing my Grandparents as they got older assessing their lives and regretting things they never got around to doing. I remember my Grandmother saying she regretted missing out on having fashionable clothes and romance in life. She felt she never had the contrast to my Grandfather who said he got his money’s worth in life and had a “hell of a ride”. Such conversations had a strong impact on me and I resolved I did not want to find myself in a position of regret.

I wrote my first life list after graduating from college. Since then I have both crossed off items and added items as well. A few of the items I have on my life list includes:

  • Go dog Sledding in Bamff
  • Ride a Gondola in Venice
  • See New York from the Empire State Bldg
  • Scuba Dive in-the Barrier Reef
  • See the Aurora Borealis in Alaska
  • Swim with Dolphins
  • Author or co author a book
  • Learn how to Sail
  • Volunteer at animal shelter
  •    Create your own list. It’s fun. If you need help getting started ask yourself the following questions:
  • -If you had a year left to live what would I want to do?
  • -What did you want to do when you were a child?
  • -If you were on your deathbed what would you regret not having done?
  • -What would you like more of in your life
  • -If a genie could grant your wishes what would you ask for?

Write down everything that gets your heart pumping. With the internet making a someday list is easier than ever. There are sites with hundreds of life list suggestions, collage pictures you can include with your life list and even sites where you can share the list you intend to do with others and get support. The internet even has lists for foods you want to try in your lifetime.

Think of intentions and integrity as the litmus test for your list. Your list is your intentions, as opposed to wishes. Make sure the list has integrity for you and real personal significance. If you can picture going through with it and the thought fills you with joy, it belongs on your list.  Then put your life somewhere where you can see it every day. Then take action and enjoy enriching your life.

    A great movie that popularized the life list was the “Bucket List” with Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, a delightful, fun movie about two men who are dying from cancer and set out to complete their bucket (someday) lists.

One of my favorite parts of the movie was the notion that when you die you’re asked two questions, and your answers determine whether or not you’ll get into heaven:

1-Have you found joy in life?

2-Has your life brought joy to others?

    So whatever you want to call it a someday, bucket, life list, write yours down and begin to find the joy in your life.