When you get feedback to accomplish a goal, think for a moment.

What qualifications does this person have, or what tested proof can you count on? Words of confidence follow us through the day. Words of criticism or caution do the same. If the information is genuinely helpful – get a second opinion, and maybe a third. If the information seems confusing – get a second opinion, and maybe a third. And, simply discard irrelevant information that you know is a waste of your time and energy.

Much of what is meaningful to you is based on your personality, needs, goals and talents.

Each day you have the choice to make new and improved decisions. Who you seek for counsel and how you spend your time inadvertently affects who you attract in the future and the outcomes that you experience. Learn from your mistakes and misjudgments. The process builds assets in your life and further confidence. The key is to be yourself as you ask questions so that you come across as authentic and worthy of someone’s time and knowledge. Ask what you want in five different ways to see if the person you are talking with is listening, is consistent, is knowledgeable, and understands your situation.

If you have not had good role models in childhood, look for good role models. (This can include top self-help authors, friends, church members, and the like.) I am amazed at the thousands of stories I have heard from clients who had abusive, disruptive, alcoholic, or dysfunctional upbringings that are now living joyful and rewarding lives. A key ingredient has been their role models. Rather than saying, “What’s wrong with my life?” they chose to focus on, “What’s right with me to better my life?”

Ryan is an excellent example. He and his brother focused on sports because his parents were rarely available and often at odds with each other. Focusing on wanting to be a physical health photo model, he pursued this dream. He found excellent role models, including my co-authors in GPS for Success:  Stephen Covey, John Gray and Les Brown. He became the most photographed health/fitness model in the United States within a stunningly short time frame. Yes, Ryan had the genetics, personality, and motivation, but it was his never give up attitude that kept opening doors.

I believe these are some of the secrets that added to his success:

  • He noticed what did and didn’t work.
  • He developed, nurtured, and maintained good contacts.
  • He stood out in the crowd.
  • He responded to every opportunity.
  • He walked away from the takers and users.
  • He educated himself in the field.
  • He was not intimidated by big names or large companies.
  • He was authentic and made his goals clear.
  • He believed in himself as well as the power of manifesting.
  • He had excellent role models.
  • He had a positive mind-set.

Ryan continues to move up in his career. His next goal is being a television soap opera star. My bet is that he will be there soon and you’ll enjoy looking at him on the screen and following his career.

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