This is an excellent question. There are six common mistakes that many people allow themselves to fall into. These mistakes could be the difference from getting the dream job you want versus being unnoticed and constantly at the back of the job line.

While success is defined in different ways, let’s assume it means getting the dream job you desire, having a fulfilling and loving home life, plus excellent friends and a wonderful relationship. Some people have the smarts to succeed but never do because in some areas of their life they don’t understand mistakes not to make.

Here are some of the worst traps or habits to avoid on your way to success.

Self-absorbed thinking. Successful people set goals and move toward them helping others along the way. Some individuals fall into the trap of being self-absorbed. They believe the world revolves around them and they are not responsible for their setbacks or poor manners. In essence they are focused on themselves – and have a tendency to use others. For instance, Alice called me about her sister. She said it was time to give up helping her because no matter how hard she tried her sister always came back for more rescuing, blame and guilt tactics. The goal is to be authentic and create mutually beneficial alliances and friendships.

Being unproductive. One of the more frustrating things is to hire a person who doesn’t care about the quality of their work. My father was an electrical engineer. He retired more than once and was pulled out of retirement several times because firms said they needed his skills, talents, and knowledge. Dad passed away a few years ago at 78. At his funeral many of his colleagues came to say that he had made a huge difference in their lives. While he was at times a comic in the office his attention to detail and productivity was impeccable. So many people learned from him. His experience ran deep as well as his commitment to any project. Men and women in their twenties and thirties looked up to dad for his wisdom, experience, and team building no matter what unexpected technical problem arose. The goal is be productive in ways that match your talents and personality and you better the lives of others.

Taking people for granted. There is a pilot saying, “Be kind to your co-pilot because at some point in your career he/she may be your captain.” Some people slip into the habit of taking others for granted. If there is one thing I’ve learned in life is that the unexpected can and will show up. It’s wise to have people who want to be there for you because you are there for them. Some people take their friends for granted. There is no such thing as success without a network of friends and supporters. The goal is to be your best self and not take others for granted.

Do you walk your talk? Unsuccessful people routinely talk a lot but don’t follow through. They often fail to show up on time. They forget to say thank you for kindnesses or opportunities given to them. They can’t be counted on. If you cannot count on a person likely you are not going to call them back … to be a friend, hire them for a work position, or anything else. In essence you are cutting yourself off from people and situations that could open doors. The goal is to be consistent and walk your talk.

Looking like a failure. Every person gives off a presence of how they feel about themselves. You don’t have to be born into wealth to create abundance. But you do need to believe in yourself. If you are just getting started or starting over, your presence and presentation can take you to new levels of success. In my book, GPS for Success I go into great detail on this subject. You can download this as an E-book as my gift. I want you to succeed. I want you to feel like a huge success. I want you to have and share the knowledge you gain. After all you are part of the ripple effect. The goal is to understand the psychology of success so that you attract the people and situations that match your goals. I call this manifesting.

Having to win the debate. There are some individuals who enjoy arguing for the sake of arguing. They start debates to control the conversation, get attention, or enrich their ego. Debating as a way of conversation doesn’t allow a continuous and interesting free flow of thoughts, ideas, or insights. If you have a tendency toward this habit, you might want to reconsider.  The goal is to add to the conversation and not detract.

That’s it. My final suggestion is to ask yourself…

“How do I want to set my priorities?” The goal is to create habits that work for you and not against you.