A New Normal: Finding Joy in the Present

Linda Daniels

What does it take to really begin living? For me, it took a long wake up call.

In the end, I learned that the shortcut to creating a life you love is: to be happy now.

Yes, I’ve had high moments of success and fun, but if I were to do it over I would have had many more.  Looking back on the majority of my adult life, I ran on the mantra: “once I have ________or I achieve _______; I’ll be happy”. In hindsight, I was like a gerbil spinning my treadmill, chasing happiness; while (to no surprise!) finding it somewhat elusive.

It didn’t help that I had chosen telecommunication sales as my profession, in the highly competitive, 24 X7 high tech, corporate world. This didn’t give me much time for a life. I found after making millions of dollars in sales profits for companies, management’s idea of dealing with sales people was frequently to cut territories and exploit employees.

I became tired of hitting the wall with long overtime work hours, chauvinism and sales territory cuts.     Then, as if to add insult to injury, the high tech industry collapsed. The recession followed. My discretionary income shriveled up and I struggled with a recurring case of mono brought on by years of overwork.

Looking back on it, this was one of the most difficult, but most enlightening periods of my life. I learned the importance of being happy now. I. began actively designing my life the way I want it to be.

I began doing freelance writing. I was invited to write for LWJ and other publications, fulfilling a lifetime dream. I come from a family of writers and I longed to make a difference. I found with my writing, my work began to feel like the movie “The Wizard of OZ” when it went from black and white to color. I found as I changed my consciousness, new opportunities started showing up. I began spending more time having fun and doing things that make my heart sing, writing, running, traveling and spending more time with people I love.

   A favorite story of mine is “Lessons from the Mexican Fisherman”. It’s about quitting the rat race and living life to the fullest. Here it is for your enjoyment:

Perhaps everyone has heard the story of the Mexican Fisherman. The Mexican Fisherman is the hero of the people who are out of the rat race.

The American businessman was at the pier of a coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the boat were several yellow fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, “only a little while”. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?” The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, stroll into the village in the evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, senior.”

The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise.

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But senior, how long will this all take?”

To which the American replied, “15-20 years.”

“But what then, senior?”
“Millions, senior? Then what?”The American laughed and said that’s the best part. “When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions.”

The American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”

“But Amigo I do that already.”

The Mexican Fisherman represents the spirit and essence of people who have quit the Rat Race. While other people are like the American Businessman who is busy acquiring money and things and is planning to rest & relax later, a day which might come or not come. The Mexican Fisherman is happy in the present, the American Businessman is chasing happiness in the elusive future.

The Dalai Lama (when asked what surprises him most about humanity) recently, commented, “Man…sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived”.

   A favorite quote of mine is, “The gift of happiness belongs to those who unwrap it” – Andrew Dunbar.

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 Wishing you all well as always and a new better normal.